Welcome to my Parlour ...

On August 26th, 2010, my mother passed beyond the veil.
This event has become a catalyst for change in many and often profound ways in my life.
This is my way of chronicling those changes so that I may, at a later date, have the ability to review and reflect upon them.

~ Go dtugtar breith orainn dá réir ár ngníomhartha. ~
(Let us, by our actions, be judged)

Monday, January 23, 2012

Update in the second part ...

So ... no great announcements yet but, perhaps, a little gained ground,

Apparently the EL and my sister had reached a verbal agreement back in December before she went off on holiday (geez, wouldn't it be nice?) that ought to have brought things to a conclusion shortly after the new year ... alas, as is predictably her, during her holiday she sent hi an email reneging on the agreement and making a new set of demands off him.

This time, however, it would seem that the demands she's made is something that (in the interest of getting things done and not having to fight with her over every little thing for the next 11years) the EL is actually willing to concede ... mabey.

He needs to contact a couple of lawyers that routinely handle estate law and check on the legalities, as well as weight out what he views as his moral responsibilities to my mother. He's promised to call me back this coming Friday to update me as to whether he's made a decision and, if yes, what it might be. Which means that I may finally get an actual firm timeline on when this will all be over.

More to come ...

Sunday, January 22, 2012

Update in the first part ...

I received an interesting email from the estate lawyer on Friday late afternoon. Basically indicating that there's been a development with the estate ... my sister's apparently put forth a proposal to the EL which is reasonable enough that he is considering it. He indicated that he will contact me on Monday to bring me properly up to speed as to the current state of things.

I will admit to being quite curious as to what this proposal is. No point in playing the "what-if" game, I'll find out tomorrow.

More to come ...

Friday, January 6, 2012

I Resolve ...

My first post of 2012 ...

Has the change of the calendar created a change in my life?

No, and yes.

Nothing has changed in the mundane day to day -- Kara still has a way to go in her healing and her insurance ran out the end of November; my sibling is still making things as difficult as before so no resolution on the financial front; my son's work hours have been significantly cut and he may not have his share of the rent at the end of the month; and it goes on -- and yet ...

I have changed. Well, my outlook has changed ... is changing ... since each day since I did that working for my friend is brighter and sits more lightly on my shoulders.

As an individual who has always tended towards various degrees of depression at the best of times (trust me, folks, were it not for the coping strategies I developed as a child [and the child of a psychiatrist at that], I likely would have spent much of my adolescence and adulthood on antidepressants), a negative attitude is not a difficult thing for me to fall into the habit of. And next month, February, is traditionally that point out of the year when my internal turmoil and pain is at it's worst.

And yet, I have felt more hopeful and grateful over the course of this first week of the new calendar ... and I'm enjoying it ^_^

I cannot do anything to change the circumstances in which I find myself stuck ... nor can I change the minds of those people who are the sources of the greatest of my stresses ... where those things are concerned, I still have no choice but to wait for the inevitable resolutions that will come eventually. I can only change how I choose to act as a result of those forces I cannot control and I find myself wishing to choose to stop waiting and start living again.

We shall see, as the month (and eventually the year) wears on, just what I can do to chase this good feeling and see where it leads me.